We’ve all participated in discussions in which the issue connected with unfaithfulness is being talked about and recently I had this type of conversation with a neighbor who was revealing to me that her man was in fact making use of her charge card to purchase chitchats with an adult line service and the notion he was spending her dollars to pay for phone intimacies appeared to be the reason why she was so irritated “The only silver lining in all of this is that these were low-cost phone sex chats” my friend finally stated about all those phonesex discussions he had been taking pleasure in without her knowledge, as though he ought to be congratulated for his wisdom for selecting affordable live phone sex as opposed to more costly sex phone lines! I asked if that was the primary reason she was upset about, after all, in the event that my own hubby was indeed the one having sexual one-on-one erotic discussions with other ladies, I suspect I may have become raving mad about the whole thing!
After all, the internet is full with offers of 1-on-1 phone sex, invitations for intimate 1 on 1 live web cam shows where intimacy is the keyword.
For many singles, adult phone is probably the easiest way to break the monotony of the single life. However what if you were in a relationship and you found out that your partner did more than think about it! He actually used it for himself. What would you do? Could you likely forgive him? Show yourself to be so understanding that you’d be more perturbed by the idea that the man who had done this had utilized your credit card to buy this (as my good friend’s husband did) which is just what you ended up being troubled by?, or would his actions be a real problem for you? Here is what my friend told me when I asked if she was angry with her husband!
“Not really, no. Surprisingly I wasn’t angry with him! The fact that he used my credit card as payment for these phone services was more annoying to me. You may say that what he did was cheating, and I would understand your point of view, but at the end of the day, this is not how I saw that. Were his actions welcome? No. Not really. Were they reprehensible? I don’t feel so. If you take into consideration the “trouble” we cause sometimes and the amount of banter we get up to with people we meet when we go on our ladies night, you know, the innuendos, and the gentle flirting, then I don’t what he did was any worse! So no… I wasn’t angry!”
Needless to say, I found her answer really interesting. To think that this was the girl who waited until she was 18 to have her first kiss. Who thought we were too young when we had ours. And there she was, giving me a lesson in forgiveness and open mindedness. How she had taken all of this was a revelation. She actually didn’t mind and saw that he had been talking to invisible women, and such they had no immediate effect on her relationship. “He is calling fantasy lines” she added and she was right.
After all, is there any husband out there who doesn’t watch porn whenever he can, alone, without the company of his lady? “I caught Bob (my own husband) watching porn on his iPhone the other day! I told her. “Thinking about, I was crossed with him, but not because of what he was doing, but rather because he hadn’t thought I might want to join in the fun”!
But even as I was preparing to develop my very own argument further, she cut me off.
“Wait… It wasn’t as if I was completely ok with the whole thing, but really I could not see any harm in whatever he had done. I did tell him off for the fact that he used my credit card without my knowledge, and as I was talking to him about it, it suddenly dawned on me that I might have liked to have been involved in the next call. So I told him so. I said that any time he had the need to seek release with some adult phone girl, I wanted to be included in the conversation, either in the background, just listening in, or actively involved in it”
I was taken aback! After al, this was the woman who was my innocent charming childhood friend I was speaking to. The woman who had her 1st kiss one year or so after I enjoyed mine… Who waited to have sex until she was ready for it, which turned out to be after she graduated from college. And here she was revealing to that she and her man were seriously considering virtual and sexual multi partners relationships. It was insane… Yet remarkable.
“Did you? I asked her. Did you do it? Did you and your husband have adult phone with another person? Your own virtual version of a 3-some!
“Yes…” She said. “And before you ask, yes, it was a lot of fun!”